(this post kind-of goes hand-in-hand with my other #heforshe post…)
What follows is the UN Women speech, transcripted, along with my personal commentary on it. This is my own opinion only, and I don’t expect anyone to agree with it!
Here we go…:
Today we are launching a campaign called for HeForShe. I am reaching out to you because we need your help. We want to end gender inequality, and to do this, we need everyone involved. This is the first campaign of its kind at the UN. We want to try to mobilize as many men and boys as possible to be advocates for change. And, we don’t just want to talk about it. We want to try and make sure that it’s tangible.
You UN people need us males’ help? One’s first impression here, if they are totally new to all of this, is that it appears as if only women are engaged in a fight for gender equality, while all the men are choosing to be absent from this fight. If the UN is comprised mainly of men, and they’re on-board with this, then that would kind-of contradict such an impression, wouldn’t it?
I was appointed as Goodwill Ambassador for UN Women six months ago. And, the more I spoke about feminism, the more I realized that fighting for women’s rights has too often become synonymous with man-hating. If there is one thing I know for certain, it is that this has to stop.
Hmm… I wonder why EVER could that be? Just in case you’re wondering – which you are – allow me to enlighten you a bit:
This is also starting to sound as if you are an ‘emmissary’ to this ‘church’ called ‘UN Women’, where you preach ‘Feminism’ to the ignorant masses in 3rd-World countries. I’m not even kidding. You sound like a preacher of the Lord, Emma, with your words thus far.
For the record, feminism by definition is the belief that men and women should have equal rights and opportunities. It is the theory of political, economic and social equality of the sexes.
Oh, really? Well, there’s no more definite a definition for a word than its etymological one. ‘Feminism’ comes from the Latin word ‘femina’ which means ‘gender-equality’…
No, wait… that’s not right! Of course, the word ‘femina’ means ‘woman’ in Latin! And of course the ‘-ism’ part comes from the Greek (meaning a state of being or belief system).
Saying ‘Feminism’ means ‘gender-equality’, then, is the same, linguistically – and practically – as saying that a movement called ‘Aryanism’ means ‘racial-equality’. Any normal person can see the nonsense in ‘Aryanism’, yet apparently not in ‘Feminism’.
I started questioning gender-based assumptions a long time ago. When I was 8, I was confused for being called bossy because I wanted to direct the plays that we would put on for our parents, but the boys were not. When at 14, I started to be sexualized by certain elements of the media. When at 15, my girlfriends started dropping out of sports teams because they didn’t want to appear muscly. When at 18, my male friends were unable to express their feelings.
You’re joking, right?
You’re actually confused by being called ‘bossy’, after wanting to direct the plays as a child? WOW…
What gives you the right, as a child, to direct a play? No wonder you were called ‘bossy’! No doubt that tid-bit was supposed to play-into the whole ‘ban-bossy’ thing, and no doubt we’re supposed to assume that the boys, when wanting to direct, weren’t called ‘bossy’ but instead were allowed cordially to direct.
And as for your being ‘sexualized’ by media. That kind-of comes with the whole ‘being-famous’ bit. Oh, and MEN face the same caveat as well – just differently (you know, because men and women are different). You can’t rightfully stop a man from fawning over you any more than he should stop you from fawning over him – if you end up doing so. Deal with it.
That whole dropping-out of sports thing is their own decision. They wanted to appear ‘girly’ for the guys, and no amount of social engineering is going to put an end to that – especially when that engineering comes as a forceful demand to make girls and guys think and act a certain way. Never going to happen.
And besides, there are actually men who prefer women with muscle-tone. Me included. For me, a woman who’s ‘fit’ and ‘toned’ is likely a woman who can defend herself, and thus won’t always need to rely on me to ‘white-knight’ her – which is good because I won’t ‘white-knight’ women who don’t deserve it and I can’t always do so to those that do.
And finally, about that ‘men can’t express their feelings’ bit – men CAN and DO express their feelings, when they wish to. We men don’t need Feminism to do that, either. If we want to cry, we’ll absolutely do so. That being said, MEN EXPRESS THEIR FEELINGS DIFFERENTLY TO WOMEN. What a woman may find as an insane man running about before a courthouse and setting himself on fire, to the average man is simply understood as a man who has been hurt to the point where self-immolation is the only viable option of escape from that pain.
Understand me, here?
I decided that I was a feminist, and this seemed uncomplicated to me. But my recent research has shown me that feminism has become an unpopular word. Women are choosing not to identify as feminists. Apparently, I’m among the ranks of women whose expressions are seen as too strong, too aggressive, isolating, and anti-men. Unattractive, even.
See the links, above… THAT is the reason people seem to be leaving Feminism in droves.
Why has the word become such an uncomfortable one? I am from Britain, and I think it is right I am paid the same as my male counterparts. I think it is right that I should be able to make decisions about my own body. I think it is right that women be involved on my behalf in the policies and decisions that will affect my life. I think it is right that socially, I am afforded the same respect as men.
YOU ALREADY ARE! I kid you not! You are ALREADY, as a woman, paid the same amount for the same work – RIGHT NOW! Regardless of the Western nation you live in.
The whole pay-gap thing came about in the first place because Feminists can’t do math. Instead of comparing what a single man, and a single woman, with the exact same qualifications, job position in the same company, as well as work ethic, and determining their difference in pay – and then doing so for as many job positions as possible – the Feminists (I guess thinking that all that would take too much work) simply lump-summed the total salaries of all men, and then compared that to that of all women. THAT is where the 70-cents-to-the-dollar myth comes from.
And I think it is also right that MEN FINALLY GET TO MAKE THE DECISIONS OVER THEIR OWN BODIES AS WELL. The only places where women currently have no say over their bodies (and neither, really, do men, for that matter) are mainly the Muslim-dominated nations; the rest being generally 3rd-world countries.
As soon as Feminists are willing to openly allow World nations to freely sell male contraceptive options such as Vaselgel, I’ll begin to *just* take this aspect of Feminism a *bit* more seriously.
And the last time I checked, there was indeed a ‘UN Women’ in existence that serves exactly that purpose of ‘being involved in policies and decisions on behalf of women.’
Finally, about that ‘respect’ thing… Indeed, women are NOT afforded the same level of respect as men. That is because women in the West are afforded FAR MORE respect than men.
But sadly, I can say that there is no one country in the world where all women can expect to see these rights. No country in the world can yet say that they achieved gender equality. These rights, I consider to be human rights, but I am one of the lucky ones.
You are right when you say that no country on Earth can currently claim they have true gender equality. However, you are wrong to say that no woman on Earth has those rights you just enumerated – because I’ve just proven it so for you.
Here – let’s give some more proof:
You see: In the ‘advanced nations’, it has historically been the case that women as a whole were actually treated as SUPERIOR to men – and this is still the case today, with Feminism. Meanwhile, in the ‘troubled nations’, it has generally been the case that women as a whole… are also treated more kindly than men.
Feel free to read the Old Testament; every battle that the Jews ever fought, for the sake of their God. Who is ALWAYS the ONE demographic that is allowed to live – if it is decided that anything should live?
This single demographic is the SAME one that is given HIGHER value than all animals as well as every other single human demographic known to us. I’ll give you a hint: it’s NOT healthy, working men. In fact, this demographic is not male entirely.
And finally, what is ‘Chivalry’? I’m sure, as a woman, you know what that word means. I know, as a man, I definitely know what it means – both conceptually and practically.
Here’s a primer: http://chivalrytoday.com/what-chivalry/
My life is a sheer privilege because my parents didn’t love me less because I was born a daughter. My school did not limit me because I was a girl. My mentors didn’t assume that I would go less far because I might give birth to a child one day. These influences were the gender equality ambassadors that made me who I am today. They may not know it, but they are the inadvertent feminists that are changing the world today. We need more of those.
Here’s the reason why Chinese families preferred boys over girls during their ‘one-child policy’ days: http://content.time.com/time/world/article/0,8599,1912861,00.html
You may also want to search-out what happens to the boys in those countries that don’t tend to allow girls to attend school:
Businessmen (AND women) don’t assume women won’t go as far in the business world (let’s be honest; that is actually what you mean, here) because they may have children. They assume women will be less PROFITABLE because they may have children. Remember that businesses desire ONLY to make a profit, and nothing more. If Feminists were right about the monetary discrimination of women, then businesses could profit far more from hiring only women, and leave all men in the gutter to starve away.
If you do EXACTLY what you TRULY LOVE TO DO in your life, then your having children will hinder NOTHING. The thing is that Feminists have historically fought AGAINST women having this freedom in life.
Those ‘inadvertent feminists’ seem to be getting royally duped by ‘actual feminists’… Everyone who wishes to should indeed go about promoting TRUE EQUALITY in life; however, they MUST FIRST become wise to what ‘TRUE EQUALITY’ actually is all about. This requires, though, that one shirk ALL their ideologies – religious, as well as political.
And if you still hate the word, it is not the word that is important. It’s the idea and the ambition behind it, because not all women have received the same rights I have. In fact, statistically, very few have.
And if you still hate ‘Neo-Nazism’, then just remember that it’s only a word, and that it’s what the movement’s members DO that REALLY matters.
Honestly, though: We who shirk the name ‘Feminist’ do so NOT because of the word itself (although that’s a minor part of it), but overwhelmingly BECAUSE of Feminists’ actions, past and present.
See all the links I provide, above…
In 1997, Hillary Clinton made a famous speech in Beijing about women’s rights. Sadly, many of the things that she wanted to change are still true today. But what stood out for me the most was that less than thirty percent of the audience were male. How can we effect change in the world when only half of it is invited or feel welcome to participate in the conversation?
Men, I would like to take this opportunity to extend your formal invitation. Gender equality is your issue, too. Because to date, I’ve seen my father’s role as a parent being valued less by society, despite my need of his presence as a child, as much as my mother’s. I’ve seen young men suffering from mental illness, unable to ask for help for fear it would make them less of a man. In fact, in the UK, suicide is the biggest killer of men between 20 to 49, eclipsing road accidents, cancer and coronary heart disease. I’ve seen men made fragile and insecure by a distorted sense of what constitutes male success. Men don’t have the benefits of equality, either.
*I’ll unfortunately have to decline that invitation.*
Yes, gender equality is something that affects us all. That’s why focusing on ONE of the genders, and then expecting both genders to be alleved, is LUDACRIS.
Your father’s role as a parent has been devalued compared to mothers BECAUSE of Feminism!
I KID YOU NOT!! https://duckduckgo.com/?q=feminism+role+in+devaluing+fathers
Men who suffer from mental illness generally CANNOT seek help – thanks to Feminism – because they are expected to ‘Man-up’ about it (or somehow it ‘takes away’ from women needing those same services).
And male suicide is generally AT LEAST double what it is for females in a given country.
I do appreciate your mentioning this part in your speech, though. That’s rare among Feminism.
We don’t often talk about men being imprisoned by gender stereotypes, but I can see that they are, and that when they are free, things will change for women as a natural consequence. If men don’t have to be aggressive in order to be accepted, women won’t feel compelled to be submissive. If men don’t have to control, women won’t have to be controlled.
YOU’RE RIGHT. As soon as we can all detach ourselves from the ideology of Feminism, and embrace men and women both as HUMAN BEINGS; neither with more ‘humanity’ than the other; then we can start to see some ACTUAL progress here.
Oh, and that would require our collective shirking from the prison built around us by the Rothschild’s and their ilk. It’s these ‘Globalists’ that CREATED and FUNDED Feminism to begin with.
And that part about men being forced to control, so that women will have to submit:
NOT TRUE. I suggest you look through all this info I’ve supplied, here…
Both men and women should feel free to be sensitive. Both men and women should feel free to be strong. It is time that we all perceive gender on a spectrum, instead of two sets of opposing ideals. If we stop defining each other by what we are not, and start defining ourselves by who we are, we can all be freer, and this is what HeForShe is about. It’s about freedom.
MEN AND WOMEN ARE DIFFERENT!!
Our particular gender is something we’re born with, and it comes with a specific set of powerful, natural impulses and feelings, but, indeed, it DOES NOT define us AS A PERSON. The problem is that Feminism has, and continues to be, vehemently promoting the dichotomy of gender as being exactly what we are as people. They desire to ‘engineer’ us into the cookie-cutter forms that they personally wish to have us all be.
We are all, ultimately, INFINITE POTENTIALITY, and so CANNOT be fully ‘classified’ by any one ‘label’. You are you, and cannot be defined by any exterior concept nor construct. Social engineers, like Feminists, do not want you knowing about that, because, of course, it would mean they could not then mould you into a rigid form.
I want men to take up this mantle so that their daughters, sisters, and mothers can be free from prejudice, but also so that their sons have permission to be vulnerable and human too, reclaim those parts of themselves they abandoned, and in doing so, be a more true and complete version of themselves.
Tell me again how ensuring that all humans can be made free to pursue their true love and true purpose in life, which logically cannot be achieved until we all abandon all use of labels and the like, BY ATTEMPTING TO IMPOSE ONE SUCH LABEL AND THE LIKE UPON US ALL?
You might be thinking, “Who is this Harry Potter girl, and what is she doing speaking at the UN?” And, it’s a really good question. I’ve been asking myself the same thing.
I know exactly who you are…
All I know is that I care about this problem, and I want to make it better. And, having seen what I’ve seen, and given the chance, I feel it is my responsibility to say something.
You’re not the only one who cares, Emma. And, having seen what I’ve seen, and given this particular chance here, I feel a certain ‘responsibility’ to say something about THIS as well.
Statesman Edmund Burke said, “All that is needed for the forces of evil to triumph is for good men and women to do nothing.”
Indeed (although, I think he simply said ‘men’… which brings me to the etymology of the word ‘man’ – only very recently has ‘man’ come to mean ‘male’; it spent much of its life meaning ‘human being’).
In my nervousness for this speech and in my moments of doubt, I told myself firmly, “If not me, who? If not now, when?” If you have similar doubts when opportunities are presented to you, I hope those words will be helpful. Because the reality is that if we do nothing, it will take seventy-five years, or for me to be nearly 100, before women can expect to be paid the same as men for the same work. 15.5 million girls will be married in the next 16 years as children. And at current rates, it won’t be until 2086 before all rural African girls can have a secondary education.
Indeed: If not me, who? If not now, when? Of course, it does help to know EXACTLY what it is that needs to be done. If you don’t know what you’re spreading to the World, then you may end up committing more evil, and not even realize it.
For example, since most women ALREADY are paid the same as men for the same work. Then, going around offering your help with the mindset that women haven’t will only serve to make things worse – as eventually you reach a point where women are obviously paid MORE than men. Just as women obviously out-represent men in University.
If you believe in equality, you might be one of those inadvertent feminists that I spoke of earlier, and for this, I applaud you. We are struggling for a uniting word, but the good news is, we have a uniting movement. It is called HeForShe. I invite you to step forward, to be seen and to ask yourself, “If not me, who? If not now, when?”
Oh, I assure you, I’m NOT one of those ‘inadvertent feminists’ that you spoke of. I know EXACTLY what Feminism is about. And, it turns out, that more-and-more people nowadays are realizing what I have realized about Feminism, too. Hence why they’re all leaving.
If you’re a person who TRULY cares about the freedom of Humanity from all the tyranny and roles and ideologies of the Globalists, then I encourage you to check out the following:
Come join the club, if you dare…
But, don’t take my word for it! THINK FOR YOURSELF!!
That is all, for now…